Lavender & Patience

Lavender has plenty to say but we're not going to start with the primary message just yet.

First, Take the littlest delights for yourself, share the biggest ones.

Second, It is unfair but you bear the brunt of other's decisions. You didn't choose this for yourself but you're somehow responsible for it.

This is the plight of life, the son shall pay for the sins of his father, or whatever, you have the idea.

Here’s the magic: make yourself un-responsible for it. Whatever that means for you, make it not your problem. It never was your mess to begin with.

Moving along to the primary messages…

Be patient with yourself.

Take this literally but do not take this to mean that you can slack. If there is something that needs fixing, take a small step in the right direction. Lavender specifically said, But fix your sleep schedule, this cannot continue like this.

Lavender speaks of hard earned patience, that kind of patience that comes from having been in such tight situations that you must actively choose to extend patience.

It is the patience to slowly build towards better days and easy nights.

No, she agrees, it is not easy.


Know Where to Draw the Line

Patience does not mean unending tolerances. It just means that you can accept issues without stepping outside yourself.

Nobody expects that you grant tolerance to anything and everything. That is a built up, but unreasonable, illogical expectation.

Even God puts their foot down sometimes.

Lavender says, Some things are not owed patience. Refusing to engage honestly is not one of them.

Of course, this isn't a blank cheque to swing the opposite direction. Lavender means specific circumstances. Let any person seeking to distance you from yourself, your character, and your pillars of support fail in their attempt.

Owing patience and owing understanding go hand in hand a lot of the time but there is an oft overlooked distinction. Do not let yourself be taken in.

This comment is an extension, explaining further that while you can provide understanding of the actions taken for/against you and others, it may not actually be owed patience. Sometimes you just cut and run. Sometimes you listen for the explanation and decide from there. It is up to you to know the difference. I pray that you think of Lavender to know the difference when you're there, in the crossroads.


Blessings,

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